Why are there so many rules for submitting and publishing a book? It seems I can't even keep track of all of them. So I've decided to rebel. I'm going to write the best book I can and submit it however I want. What do you think about that??
If your book is really, really, really, really, really, good (to the nth power), then eventually, someone will probably publish it.
But it probably won't be me. And it probably won't be your first choice(s) in publisher.
Here's the thing--we get so many submissions that DO follow the rules that when we get one that doesn't, it usually doesn't even get a serious look. What a submission that doesn't follow the rules tells us is that either 1) you don't know the rules and you can't be bothered to do the basic research to discover what they are--in which case, publishing your manuscript will take a LOT of instruction and hand-holding on our part; or 2) you do know the rules and you think you're too good for them--in which case you're going to be a pain in the neck to work with and it's going to be a fight on every point. Either way, an editor will probably decide that your book will just take too much time, energy and frustration to publish.
If you're going to keep this attitude, I'd suggest submitting to a publisher who also doesn't follow the rules. Maybe you can win them over with the force of your personality, or kindredness of spirit. Either that or self-publishing. But you'd better look for a distributor who doesn't follow the rules too.